I remember my childhood with my younger sister, shes my adopted sister, we were both adopted as babies. We had our moments, but on the whole got on well most of the time. I've always looked out for her, helped her out, when she was in a violent relationship, stayed and helped her when her husband was out shagging another women while she was in hospital having thier daughter. And she helped me when I split up from my first husband. I always felt that we'd be close and remain close always. Two years ago she was going through a bad patch, as she'd just split with a fella and was feeling very low, as it was getting near to her birthday, me and my husband thought it might be nice if we asked her to come on holiday with us, her and my niece. We payed for it for her birthday. So a couple of months later, off we all went, me and hubby, my 3 kids and my sister and her daughter. Unfortunately, between the weeks of organising the holiday and going, my birth mum who I'd found a few years before became ill quite suddenly and was rushed into hospital and died a couple of days later, also my husbands dad had been unwell had some tests only to discover he had cancer, nothing they could do, it had spread too far. So within 3 weeks of each other, my birth mother died and was cremated and 1 week later my husbands father died then was cremated. We were 2 weeks away from going on holiday and although neither one of us was really in the mood to go on holiday, we didn't feel we wanted to let the kids down, or my sister and niece as they hadn't been on holiday for years, so we decided to still go. We tried to be jolly as much as we could, obviously my kids were also a bit subdued as they had lost grandparents. Anyway the holiday ended and we all went home. A week later I had a letter from my sister saying that she hadn't enjoyed the holiday and wishes that she hadn't gone because we were miserable the whole time and didn't take her out enough, or go drinking or clubbing at night, which isn't my thing anyway. She said when your on holiday you should go out exploring everday, and that she'd felt trapped because she doesn't drive. Funny really, we were on a large holiday park with lots to do. Anyway to cut a long story short, after we'd paid for her to go, hired another car for the week and given her ��100 spending money to help her out and we bought all the food, I felt utterly deflated, and very hurt. My sister just didn't get that we were grieving and didn't feel our selves, all she seemed bothered about was the fact that we had ruined her holiday and she wished she'd stayed at home. I sat and thought about it for a while then wrote back to her explaining how I'd felt about my birth mother dying so suddenly and being with her when she died and how upset my husband had been when his father had died in the night and he hadn't been able to get to hospital in time to be with him. I also told her that she had deeply hurt me by saying she wishes she hadn't bothered coming and that I wouldnt do anything like that again as she was ungrateful. Ever since then she hasn't spoken to me. Then a few weeks ago our adoptive mum collapsed and was rushed into hospital, my dad phoned me, but couldn't say much as he was in a state. I decided to phone my sister to ask her to phone me and let me know what was happening at the hospital so my dad didn't have to worry about anything but my mum, my sister lives just round the corner from the hospital, but I live 5 hours away. Anyway, when I phoned her she wouldn't even talk to me, once she realised it was me, she hung up, my mum is now OK, but we didn't know what was the matter at the time and I just can't believe that she won't have anything to do with me. She told my son as far as shes concerned I'm dead. I don't really know how to feel, sometimes I feel so angry towards her and I hate her, other times I sit and cry because I feel I've lost my closest friend, But what can I do, I feel for my parents as this makes it hard for them aswell. It may seem hard, but I have now decided to give up trying, you can't make somone love you or have a relationship with you.. I just sometimes wonder if I hadn't been so caring in the first place and taken her on holiday, whether we'd still be talking!! Am I the only one who has done something nice for a family member only to have it thrown back in your face and end so badly, I'd be interested to know!!